lib/connections: Allow on the fly changes to rate limits (fixes #3846)

Also replaces github.com/juju/ratelimit with golang.org/x/time/rate as
the latter supports changing the rate on the fly.

GitHub-Pull-Request: https://github.com/syncthing/syncthing/pull/3862
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