ipn/ipnlocal, util/goroutines: track goroutines for tests, shutdown

Updates #14520
Updates #14517 (in that I pulled this out of there)

Change-Id: Ibc28162816e083fcadf550586c06805c76e378fc
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>
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