ipn/localapi, ipn/ipnlocal: add etag support for SetServeConfig

This PR adds optimistic concurrency control in the local client and
api in order to ensure multiple writes of the ServeConfig do not
conflict with each other.

Updates #9273

Signed-off-by: Marwan Sulaiman <marwan@tailscale.com>
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