control/controlbase: use less memory when idle (remove rxState.buf)

Uses 4KB less per Conn.

Fixes #4113

Change-Id: I38d25b1cf5ecf45423404a330b7ecab79a9fb176
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>
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