ipn: avoid useless no-op WriteState calls

Rather than make each ipn.StateStore implementation guard against
useless writes (a write of the same value that's already in the
store), do writes via a new wrapper that has a fast path for the
unchanged case.

This then fixes profileManager's flood of useless writes to AWS SSM,
etc.

Updates #8785

Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>
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