ipn/ipnlocal: reduce allocations in TailFS share notifications

This eliminates unnecessary map.Clone() calls and also eliminates
repetitive notifications about the same set of shares.

Updates tailscale/corp#16827

Signed-off-by: Percy Wegmann <percy@tailscale.com>
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