ProxyGroup, Recorder, and PeerRelay each carried a near-identical copy of
the auth key re-issuance state machine (in-flight tracking, per-parent rate
limiting, stale-device cleanup). A bug fix had to land in three places and
could silently drift.
Extract it into a shared tailscaled.Reissuer, alongside the other tailscaled
workload helpers (NewAuthKey, AuthKeyFromConfigSecret, DeviceIDFromStateSecret)
that the callers already use. It owns its own mutex, tracks in-flight reissues
per replica keyed by parent, and rate-limits re-issuance per parent; the three
reconcilers drive it via EnsureState/RemoveState/ShouldReissue. The device
deletion helper is shared too, so the reissue state machine and its tests now
live in one place.
Updates #20544
Signed-off-by: chaosinthecrd <tom@tmlabs.co.uk>